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Greetings Readers,

This weeks Got Insight section is about Drama, Drama, Drama!

While doing a reading for a client this week this blog topic came up. The energy in the last two weeks has been filled with turmoil. For everyone I have read for and even in my very home. It is interesting how I can see patterns by the calls I get. The energy has been frantic in nature and has felt to me for a couple of weeks that we are on the backside of a shift in vibration.

What causes drama? What makes it grow? How can we neutralize drama?

Do you create your drama?

The answer to that question is YES! Usually drama is increased by heightened emotions either yours or someone else’s that you choose to buy into. Have you ever know someone that always has a dramatic situation going on in their life? They spend all of their time angry, bitter and unhappy because of the drama. I’m sure you also noticed that they wants to engage others in their plight. Every conversation is about their terrible story, their pain and the injustice of it all. Even when the situation is resolved to the best it can be they can’t stop giving energy to a long dead subject.

A very close friend of mine often hands out this quote from a very wise man. At this moment, I can’t remember his name and I am sure I won’t get the quote exactly right, but here goes, “There are only three ways any situation can effect you. It can happen to you, It can happen because of you or you can be the observer.” We, as the observers, have a choice to make when Drama strikes! We can jump into the drama, drink in its energy, activate our pain bodies, and feed our egos by then inviting the situation into our lives and minds. At that point, we are no longer observers. We are now the recipient or the participant. When the pain body or ego are activated it takes only two things to shift out of the cycle. One: Realization that you are activated and either the issue is about you or it isn’t. Two: Choosing to stop then do it.

I know it sounds very easy to say to simply choose and feels like an insurmountably hard to do and when you first start thinking differently about the drama that involves you and others it feels uncomfortable. Almost as if you are not doing your job. Your mind will race with things you could add to the drama or anger will bubble around your brain. Old stories from your passed that parallel the drama at hand will come up. But if you choose not to partake of the energetic chaos often enough it becomes easy to identify a drama for what it is… An energy suck. When this happens, you will find your stress level decreasing and it gets easier to hold the energy at null.

So how do you hold the energy at zero?

I am acutely aware of energy and find that burning sage or what the Native Americans call smudging. A good sage will bring the energy to zero and clear your space. It if a easy thing to do. While you hold the intent of clearing all energy from a space you light the smudging. I suggest that you open the windows and do not use sage if people in the house have breathing issues or there is an infant in the home. The smoke can be harsh if you are not used to it. But smudging is an amazing thing to practice it will immediately make a energetic difference an any space.

If you are a numbers person then close your eyes and imagine a odometer from a car. Recognize where the tension level in the space or in you is sitting. Give it a number. Then take a few deep breathes imagine taking the number up first so that you can see that you control the levels. Then slowly exhale the numbers down to a comfortable level. I don’t suggest take it to zero at first. Because you are used to living with intense stress it will feel like you are missing something important but slowly take the number down and as you get comfortable with the new way of feeling you can move the numbers even lower to zero.

For times when others are trying to pull you into their pain so that they don’t have to be alone in their misery try this: Don’t respond to the drama. Listen with a calm heart. Hold light around the person and realize you don’t have to agree or buy in to the drama. If you can hold the space the other person will realize, usually sub-consciously at first, that you hear them and understand but you are not going to feed the drama. Their demeanor will change and they will shift right before your eyes.

So death to drama and life to joy. Try this mantra to change the people you are attracting into your life. This mantra will not create negative Karma and will work very rapidly. “Those whom I can help and who can help me are drawn to me like a magnet and those who are not for my highest and best good find their good elsewhere.”

In the store at lifefirst.com you can purchase CDs or downloadable MP3’s that will help with staying grounded centered and calm.

Here is a link to our store Self-help products And you can always go right to the cd I have suggested by clicking here

Your comments and questions are always welcome. And if you have a blog subject you think would be interesting send me a note at info@lifefirst.com.

May We All Be As One!

Rhonda R. Carpenter

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Greetings Readers,

This weeks Got Insight section is about Body Image.

Why is it that no matter what size or shape we are the tendency is to not be satisfied with what we look like. The image that stares blankly back at us from the surface of the mirror is distorted by what our mind interprets as faults, imperfections or shortcomings. When I became a hypnotherapist over 20 years ago, weight loss was, pardon the pun, the Big Money Maker. At least, that is what the instructors said in business 101. I have worked with clients who experience an undesirable body image for my entire career with measurable success. Again, pardon the pun.

When I first started treating for weight control I was amazed at the similarities in experiences from youth that arose for the clients. Many of the people I treated for body image had been molested, abandoned, abused or neglected as children. They would often make comments like, “I am filling up an empty spot inside myself.” Or “There is this emptiness at my core I can’t fill.”

What is your perfect size?

Let’s face it few of us are cover girl material especially in today’s social view of what is beautiful, (and we will leave that topic for another day). But that doesn’t mean we can’t or shouldn’t look the best we can. We should feel the best we can and be in the best health possible. Last week I talked about perspective.For our purposes defined as: A visual or mental view, as of a scene or a subject and the interrelationships of is parts or facts.

Let’s start with the basics: Simply stated the mind must translate what the eye sees. That translation, therefore, is tainted by the sub-conscious mind, maturity level, emotional state, and physical well-being of the person who is doing the perceiving. These definitions also apply to body image.

It is important that you conjure an image of what your perfect size looks like, feels like, and moves like. Take into consideration how the clothing you are wearing will fit you at that size. If you are a numbers person then stick to the scale for your guide post, but most of us aren’t numbers people. I don’t really care what the scale says if I am feeling good, what about you?

After several abdominal surgeries the last leading to a full hysterectomy I had the largest period of self loathing body image and physical discomfort of my life. For the number people out there at my top I hit 182 (maybe more) and at my right weight, I fluctuate between about 125 to 132 (pretty much. I don’t weigh myself regularly, as a matter of fact, I wait for the doctor to do it at physical time.) For me it is about my how my clothing fits me and how I feel physically. At my top end I was pouring myself into a size 12 pants I have now been a size 8 for years.

My head had done a mind trip on me. I had stopped caring what I put in my body as my body had failed me. I was mad at my abdomen, which had me refusing to listen when it said it was full, which in turn made it get bigger, sure the extra food didn’t help either. I felt out of shape and unattractive even though my husband didn’t seem to care. During this part of my life I was not a happy with my body. I looked in the mirror and said the most terrible things in my mind but was resolute that having my stomach cut open once a year for 4 years had done the damage and there wasn’t much I could do about it.

Then I would squeeze myself into a pair of pants that would make be completely aware of how big I was. It was a vicious cycle of repeated mental self-abuse. I hadn’t realized that I was angry until my neck and arm were injured and I was stuck sitting around all day and most nights in nerve damage pain. The injury to my neck and arm made it impossible to do conventional exercise. I really felt stuck. Even if I wanted to I couldn’t exercise and the lack of movement was making my weight worse.

Frustration was daily while I waited to see what the doctors would determine was wrong with my arm. Two years later and hours of self-hypnosis for pain control, we finally had a diagnosis. Then I realized that if I could reduce pain with hypnosis for the most part I certainly could change how I felt about my body. Like a lightning bolt the answer struck me… I am mad. Yes mad at my body.

When I stop being angry at my body and started telling myself that I had really wonderful intense eyes. Which is what I think my best physical quality is. I shed sizes rapidly. I started using this technique with my clients and found to my excitement that it worked for almost everyone.

This is simply a repeat of the laws of attraction. What you think about gets bigger and what you focus on expands. I had been mad, sub-consciously mad but mad none the less. And I was focused on how big I was. I was taking no steps to change my actions or thoughts. I was simply maintaining and hating my body. But when I started to tell myself that I had great eyes and focusing my attention in the mirror on that instead of how I hated how big I was and there wasn’t anything I could do about. It all changed. I slowly began to see my new self in the mirror everyday. Flat tummy, thin legs, tone and at just the right size. When ever I would catch myself doing the negative self-talk I would cancel the thought out loud and then replace them with, “I have truly great eyes and I love my body and my body loves and takes care of me.” Then I went to work using hypnosis to concrete the image of the thin Rhonda. Not skinny, but thin and I went as far as to sign correspondence to friends Thin R.

So if you are one of those folks out there thinking about your fat or how uncomfortable you are in your skin I am here to tell you hypnosis can help. Help you build new habits, help you live now a happier life where you don’t spend all your time cutting yourself down. It can help you choose differently and make those changes permeate. Whether your issue is poor self-esteem or lack of boundaries, or abuse, hypnosis can help you cut to the chase and make your perfect body image. One you can be happy with. Here is a link to our weight control center on lifefirst.com And you can always visit the free Audio library there are several good weight control sessions there (come back to this page often I am about to start adding more downloads.)

The transformation isn’t solely in what you eat or how much you exercise it is in what you think and then the actions that come from what you think.

Your comments and questions are always welcome. And if you have a blog subject you think would be interesting send me a note at info@lifefirst.com.

May We All Be As One!

Rhonda R. Carpenter

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Greetings Readers,

This weeks Got Insight section is about perspective.

This subject was suggested by a dear friend. We are lucky enough to get to talk often about an array of things. So thank you for the Blog Idea Rowan!

No matter how you size it up perspective is personal to each of us. You cannot perceive for another and they cannot perceive for you.

Law enforcement knows all too well that two people in the same room seeing the same thing will inevitably have different stories about the incident. Family members will always disagree about any given happening within the family even if they were stand right next to the person or thing in question. Why is this? And how can you understand and accept another’s situation or observations?

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Greetings Readers,

This weeks Got Insight?

What is in your tool box? Do you feel that you don’t have what you need to make the next step on your road to success? We have talked briefly about patterns. This week I thought I would talk about different tools that can be used to identify your patterns.

First let’s define a pattern: The repeating of an action, actions, or lack of actions and thoughts that garners the same outcome from any given situation.

While we are normally unaware of the unconscious or subconscious mind it is completely active at all times. And it has a job. Its job is to keep us in the known. Notice I did not say safe, or happy. The subconscious mind is like a computer hard drive in a lot of ways. It stores and categorizes information. It doesn’t judge information. It doesn’t analyze information. I groups like experiences, feelings and situations together. If you haven’t taken a look at the slide show on how your mind works yet. Please click here.

So the subconscious mind will inevitably lead you back to what doesn’t work because it is known. Let that sink in a minute. While I give you an example, a woman who was repeatedly disregarded by the men in her formative years and usually later years will seek out men who will disregard her in he relationships now. And more often than not this type of relationship will gradually escalate to some form of abuse and defiantly drama. “Is her picker broken?” People will ask. “Doesn’t she see she keeps picking the same types of men?” The answer is no. Not because she doesn’t want to see that she is making these choices but because she is in a pattern that has not been realized yet.

We can make it even simpler than that; a person who chooses not to take action instead of taking action. Some would call this procrastination, fear of success or fear of failure. Actually, it could be a combination of all these things. This person is in a pattern. While the cause may differ from person to person the bottom line is that the unconscious mind is stuck in a known pattern. In addition, the only way to break a pattern is to realize that it is accruing and then take the steps to break it.

A good tool for pattern identification is journaling. I can hear the sigh from here. When do I have time to journal what would I say? Blah blah. Journaling doesn’t have to be a drag. Start slow. For two minutes a day type out or jot down in a special place what you are concerned about, happy about, stuck on well you get the idea. If writing just isn’t going to happen for you try dream therapy. The subconscious mind speaks in its own language and that language is symbolic in nature. So pay attention to your dreams. Before going to sleep each night, ask for the ability to remember your dreams. Now I like to tell people to jot them (the dreams ) down but recording them into a tape recorded works just as well. Today that is very easy, you can do it right on your computer, micro cassette recorder or standard tape deck. Once you have the symbols you can look them up here. Or stop by your local book store and get one of the other dream analysis books. There are plenty of good ones.

Understanding that what you are doing is causing you pain or discomfort is a good indication that you are in a pattern. Be aware! Don’t walk around on auto pilot, that is not being present. The joy of living is being here now being present in your daily lives. If you are in a pattern you, like it—or not living in the past and not the now. Because the conscious portion of the mind is only about 8 to 10% the unconscious has you out numbered. In order to make an impact on the subconscious you need to address the issues at the core. Hypnosis is a great place to do that. So here is a link to a free Mp3 download located in our free library. Listen and enjoy. Click here.

Announcements!!!

See the front page of Lifefirst.com to view the interview.

This week not one but two new colleague’s promos went live on Rhonda’s Author Site Click here.Check them out you won’t be disappointed!

Your questions and comments are always welcome.

May We All Be As One!

Rhonda R. Carpenter

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Greetings Readers,

This weeks Got Insight?

I have had a ton of questions this week about regression. While it is always interesting to witness past lifetimes it can also be exciting to visit possible future lifetimes. What??? Yes, that’s right, Future lifetimes.

In 2002 London’s Sunday Mirror brought me across the pond to do just that for a story! It was a fun trip and the pop rock group Atomic Kitten was very responsive to the process. These are lovely, young women who at the time were all the rage.

Click here to see the article.Take a few short minutes and read the Lifefirst regression and progression page. Click here.

It doesn’t matter if you believe in past lives, future lives or none of the above. After years and thousands of regressions and progressions it is very clear that the information and emotional experiences are extremely helpful in healing the life the client is currently living. Here is what we know. There has been an incredible amount of research done and when 1000 people from all walks of life are progressed to a predetermined year in the future they all have undeniably similar experiences. They have described changes in the earth, clothing, domiciles and culture that are so close to the same information that it is mind-boggling. When regressed to a lifetime other than the one the client is living now, the situations will parallel or echo something the person is dealing with in the now. When given the opportunity to discuss and integrate this information into daily life the changes are phenomenal and rapid. There is also often a release of the fear of death.

If you ever have the opportunity you should read, “Many Lives, Many Masters” By Brian L. Weiss The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy That Changed Both Their Lives.  Click to see the Amozon.com

If you are interested in Progression or regression feel free to contact Lifefirst for a referral.

Announcements!!!

This week not one but two new colleague’s promos went live on Rhonda’s Author Site Click here. Check them out you won’t be disappointed!

Your questions and comments are always welcome.

May We All Be As One!

Rhonda R. Carpenter

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Yes it is true The Fox is Out!
 I am so excited to be able to bring the following announcement to you. My dear friend and a fabulous Celtic genera writer, Arlene Radasky’s newest novel is now available—Free! On PodiobooksYes, free! This is a free service and costs the listener nothing. Go to her website at www.radasky.com and learn more about her journey into podcasting and subscribe to her itunes feed or follow the links to litpitch.com and read the PDF version of the book or download it to your i-kindle. There is nothing better than cozying up to read or listen to a great book that takes you to a different time and place with bold characters and a plot that makes you think about who came before you. Congratulations Arlene Radasky for stepping into this brave new world of publishing.

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Happy Father’s Day!

A few weeks ago I paid tribute to my mother and mothers all over the world. And this week I pay tribute to fathers. The guys out there hanging with their kids. Throwing the baseball or football or setting the rules and providing in the home. Fathers are very important people in their children’s lives.

In a standard household with two parents the father is normally out of the house during the day and home for the evenings. But what is most important about father’s is their level of involvement; Their ability to put away all other things and be there listening and hearing their offspring is critical. Maybe more importantly father’s need to do what they ‘say’ they will do. Their role in the psychological development of your children is most important from the ages of about 8 to 13 or 14 depending on the child. Dr. John Kappas—founder of the Hypnosis Motivation Institute—conducted a profound study which revealed that the secondary caretaker, normally the father decide the offspring sexuality. Although the role of secondary caretaker has shifted in the last few decades due to high divorce rates and missing or absent fathers and blended families. The influence of the male role in the home teaches the child how to treat women.

But even the absents of a father or male figure can create certain changes in the child’s sexuality and how that sexuality is played out. Kappas’ definition of sexuality is as follows: How we convey our ideas and what we learn to others, in other words how we communicate physically, mentally and emotionally. While suggestibility is defined as is learned from the primary caretaker, usually the mother, and is how we take in information.

But back to fathers. It is important to realize that there really isn’t about what the father ‘did or did not do’ it is about how the child perceived his interaction with others. If the father is a physical then the child will model closeness, touching, hugging and physical attentiveness. If the father is what Kappas called a Emotional sexual then the child will model a greater comfort will distance.

Once we reach 13 or 14 our sexuality is set. And change can only be made by working on this with a therapist. There are many modalities out there. So if you have father issues that are holding you back in your life then isn’t it time you put your lifefirst and dealt with it. To learn more about your sexuality have a look at the quick presentations at click here and click here!

Here is an example of what is more and more frequently happening with young men and particularly young women that come from single parent homes and don’t have a positive male role model, in this critical phase of maturing.

There is an overwhelming need to be accepted by men. This is normally not something the females are conscious of doing. Often, girls like this will marry early to older men that will treat them as they were treated by their father or male role models. If the father was unavailable and hurt the child, it is likely that they will attack to themselves a man that will be absent or abusive or unkind or dominating or passive aggressive. And until you can honestly look at those decisions and say I see the transference that is happening you will keep picking the wrong mates.

These types of relationship issues and be quickly and easily shifted with hypnosis and many other modalities. So, do not loose hope or tell yourself you have a bad mate-picker. I am intimately acquainted with this process and before I figured, it out, I had been married three times to completely the wrong men who were there to simple fill this strange thing about not having or deserving my father’s love. I have done incredible amounts or work around this issue and find that since I forgave me for taking on the role of victim and I forgave him for not being what I wanted or needed him to be, there is a sense of peace around our relationship. If you find your-self in bad or nothing relationships over and over and you would like more info simple contact us at lifefirst.com.

May We All Be As One!

Rhonda R. Carpenter

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Greetings Readers,

This weeks Got Insight?

Lets take a affirmation break.

What is the right way to state you affirmations? How can you be sure that what you are asking for is really what you desire. (Notice I did not say want) How often should you be doing affirmations? What is another way to manifest your dreams?

Lots of good questions. These are just a few that I commonly get from clients. Lets start with the affirmation section at Lifefirst.com. Where you can get tons of affirmations.

Positive Affirmations

What is the correct way to state you affirmations? Simple answer: Make them positive. State them in the present tense, as if you already have what you desire. Be grateful for what you have now. If you focus your attention on your feelings of gratitude then you will find your affirmations come true faster. There is always an excuse to be unhappy if you allow it. When you find your self-doubting that you will get what you are asking for then you are telling the universe that you really didn’t desire “it” anyway, which stops the energy flow cold. Remember like energy attacks like energy and what you focus on expands. It is not always easy to hold a sense of gratitude or thankfulness when things aren’t going like you expect. Key word in the sentence is Expect. The universal energies that make up all of us don’t see or understand the difference between desire and have or good and bad. So you really have to watch your self-talk. You know, that voice in your head that tells you: you can’t, or you don’t deserve or your not good enough…

See you don’t have to tell the Universe “how” to bring you what you desire. That is the job of the powers that are. The universe will figure out how to get your desires in front of you. You only have to focus your attention and gratitude on the result and be happy now! Be here now! Enjoy what is right in front of you, be kind to others, have fun and smile often.

How can you be sure that what you are asking for is really what you desire. (Notice I did not say want): Want is a word that sends the desire far—far away out there somewhere unattainable. Ask yourself this… Do you desire something because you think IT will make you happy? IT will make the difference in your life? If this is the case then stop. You are the only thing that can make you happy. Not your friends, husbands, wives, toys, cars houses. If you are not happy with you then it is time to look inside and change. If when you ask the question, is this really what you desire? It should be because you can grow from whatever it is, or that you are giving back or sharing freely. Think about this and be honest with yourself.

How often should you be doing affirmations? Well, it is an individual thing, but I do verbal affirmations daily and written once or twice a year in the from a of a dream chart. But you can do them as often or little as you would like to. Just remember affirmations are supposed to feel good. They are not supposed to be a burden or a chore and if they become such then you are pulling in energy that is of that same belief but attached to what you are asking for. So be careful and observant of your own thought processes.

What is another way to manifest your dreams? Affirmation work is not the only way to manifest. And taking action can be a very powerful tool in manifestation. I could say all day long I am a renowned author, but if I don’t write a book then well… it can’t happen. You can affirm success in business but if you never go to work… or you are unhappily going to work everyday expecting no change or happiness… well you see where I am going with this. And other way to ask for what you desire is to meditate on what ever it is. Or create a dream chart. Journal about your desires. Share them with others in an upbeat and excited way. Stay away form negative talk with friends. Talk up the positive and then the positive must come back to you. As we head into the profound changes our society is teetering on big changes and on all of these things are important because what goes around comes around and the coming around is happening faster these days. See the blog on Times they are a Changin’

More next week!

Your questions and comments are always welcome.

May We All Be As One!

Rhonda R. Carpenter Announcements!!!

Look for the upcoming publication of “The Mark of a Druid” with iuniverse this fall. And podcasts on itunes and podiobooks.com this summer.

There are also new and very exciting things happening at Rhonda’s Author Site Click here. Then go to the Pod Cast tab at the top of the page and listen to the new promos for the book!

Then go to the Pod Cast tab at the top of the page and listen to the new promos for the book!Then go to the Pod Cast tab at the top of the page and listen to the new promos for the book!Then go to the Pod Cast tab at the top of the page and listen to the new promos for the book!Then go to the Pod Cast tab at the top of the page and listen to the new promos for the book!        

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Welcome to Got Insight!

There is so much exciting stuff going on that it is hard to sum it all up in a short posting. First I will start with an announcement. My Novel “The Mark of a Druid” will be published this year! Stay tuned for upcoming release dates. book singings and interview info.

This weeks Got Insight is about visualization. Did you know that only about 5% of the general population can close their eyes and see pictures? Yes, that’s right. So it is likely if you are frustrated with yourself for not seeing a picture you are simply normal and going about the creative process the wrong way. The first thing you need to do is determine your dominate sense click here and go to the link to determine your dominate sense.

Working from that sense will give you a much more powerful experience and make the process stronger, more powerful and it will work faster.

What is visualization? Visualization is a directed form of thinking and supervised imagination. What we visualize or imagine, we eventually accept into our mind as reality. The subconscious mind then goes to work on making the dream reality because it believes it is already here. We can therefore create and determine the reality of our lives according to what we actually choose to imagine. There are different types of visualization but for our purposes, we will simplify the process and theory by bringing them all together under the heading of relaxed but directed imagination.

Before you jump into closing your eyes and experiencing the way you want it to be note that it is a good idea to write down some affirmations, give yourself some soiled suggestion that are farmed in a way that enhanced your dominate sense or senses. This will help you to clearly define working from your dominate sense. Let’s say that your dominate sense is auditory. Then you will want your visualization to be worded and experience from that perspective. Example: Hear the roar of the crowd, the sound of success, (what is that to you?) Listen is a good word as is sense because it is generic for any of the senses.

The senses as you know are: Sight, Smell, Taste, Touch, Hearing, and then there is what is over and above the body which is called a sense of Knowing.

Sight: See, Saw, View, Look, Imagine…

Taste: Sweet, Sour, Taste, Savor, Satisfied…

Touch: Feel, Sensation, Hold, Touch, Grasp…

Hearing: Loud, Quite, Sound, Hear, Lilt…

Knowing: Understand, Witness, Believe, Perceive…

Build your affirmations, images and visualizations always stated in the Present, in a positives way and hold them as true without deciding how they will happen. One of the rudimentary laws of attraction is to be available and open to how you manifest. Check out the Positive Affirmation section to get some powerful ideas.

If anyone would like to know more about developing your own guided visualization or imagery or even developing a deeper trance meditation contact us to set up a consultation.

May We All Be As One!

Rhonda R. Carpenter